THE SOLLUTION TO CHEATING

I have been lied to, cheated on, and my heartbroken in the process for several time in different relationships. I know I am not the only who has endured this pain. Most relationships end because of cheating from what I have witnessed in our society. A person open his/her her heart to someone, and give their all in a relationship, but in the end it is never enough because the is always the other women or the other man. Well! I am tired of moving from one relationship to another, mainly because of one thing "cheating". I have come up with two solutions which I think will put an end to cheating. The first one is an affidavit, and the second is the promissory note.

The Affidavit

"An affidavit is a written sworn state sworn statement of fact, voluntary made by an affiant or deponent under an oath or affirmation, administered by a person authorised to do so by law," Wikipedia. It may serve as evidence to its varacity and it is required for court proceedings.

An affidavit can put an end to cheating, I believe. If you an your partner say that you love each other, do not take each others words, because people are often told I love you, in most of their past relationship, and being told that still the other partner cheats. My point is that, when you are told the famous three words I love you, take your partner to the nearest police station. Ask for the affidavit paper, and make him or her write down that; he/ she promises to love you for the minimum of, maybe 5 years, and he/she will never lie or cheat during the five year period. if they fail to do so, the law will take its course.

I promise you, your partner will be tied to you, they will even be scared to look at another person, during the course of your relationship.

The Promissory note

The promissory note can also serve as the solution to cheating. "Promissory note is a negotiable instrument, where one party (the make or issuer). Makes an unconditional promise in writing, to pay a determinate sum of money to the other, under specific terms," Wikipedia.

The promissory note has to do with payment one is owed. I know you are probably wondering, how? just like the affidavit, you will ask your partner to write down a written statement that, he/she loves you, and will love for this period of time, if they fail to do so, the will pay the spouse an amount of this much.

It sounds crazy but I truly believe that this two simple methods can put an end to cheating, and can decrease the divorce rate, and fewer hearts would be broken. as the result we will all live happily ever after in love.

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Ladies its time to stand up to your abuser!!!

For some women its hard to go to the police and report their abusive husband. It's even hard to talk to someone about your abusive relationship. Actually, I don't blame them. They fear being told the following sentences, "Its your fault", "Don't piss him off", and the famous one "He is doing this because he loves you". I have something to tell you ladies, its not your fault, and he does not love you, he just loves the idea of having you around. What you must do ladies, is to try and fight back and face the abuser. I know its not easy, that's why I collected this three tips, which you can use to fight back.

Walk Away

I know walking away seems like a hard thing to do. The truth is, it is hard, but it must be done. What you must do, is to walk away when he is around. Do not sneak out or runaway in the middle of the night. He will come after you and find you. All you have to do is pack all your items, when you are done, tell him you are leaving him because he is not man enough, and that he hits like a girl. I know it sounds funny, but teasing the only thing he thinks he is superior at, which is beating you will weaken him, and he will probably hit you. Do not show any weakness when he hits you, just look at him with bravery and tell him, " Is that your best shot. I don't need this in my life, you are pathetic". Right after that head to the door and walk away.

Prepare hot grits for him

For those who have watched, "Madea's family reunion" know about this one. Well I suggest you try it, all you have to do is prepare a pot of hot grits(soft porridge) for your man, in the morning just before he goes to work. Do something to piss him off, being the coward he is he will try to hit you. When he tries to hit you pour the hot grits on his face and hit him with the frying pan. "Its like playing tennis your pour and hit," said Madea.

Striptease

This last tip is explicit, and I don't advice someone not older than eighteen to try it. It is called striptease, because it requires some stripping. What you must do is to stop your partner quickly before he tries to hit you, and tell him that you have to prepare yourself, and you are tired of him beating you, you are going to fight back. I know this sounds crazy and that's when the stripping comes in. You are going to strip all your clothes till you are fully nude. Stand in your best seductive pose, and tell him, " I am ready baby, you can hit me now". He is sure going to hit you, but sensual in the bedroom.

Those are my tips, ladies. Totally fiction not proven by any research. If you are brave you can try them. Well if you are not, you can always run to your nearest police station.

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We all need love

Aristotle’s purpose of life is for one to acquire the good, the good being happiness. For human being’s happiness can be honour, wealth and success. There is one factor that Aristotle forgot to mention that every human being needs, which is “love”. I cannot speak for non-rational animals, but humans do need love.

We are surrounded by love every day, whether it is love from a friend, from a parent, a partner or even a neighbour, we can’t ignore the love we receive from others, and by accepting that love it means that we love back.

Psychology stresses that when a child does not receive love from a parent at a younger age, that child may be rebellious, unwilling to love, and may spend the rest of his or her life lonely in the near future, because they lack that parents love. So every child need a parents love.

Some people confuse love with intimacy. Intimacy is closure found from a friend, a partner or parent, love is an intense feeling or deep affection one encounters. Intimacy is one of the characteristic of love.

A person can live without intimacy. Intimacy it is in our mind, we think we need it, but the actual fact is that we want it, while love comes from our heart; we feel the need for it in our hearts. There are couples who love each other but are not intimate, and their happy with only just the love they have for each other.

Some feel intimacy is one of the reasons that contribute to people hating love. When you are intimate with someone, you get used to that closure and forget about love, and since intimacy is a want and a person wants different things every day, people end up wanting closure from different people. As the result couples break up, and friendships end, as the result we end up blaming it on love, forgetting that you are the one who rejected love by depending a lot on intimacy.

Despite all that intimacy drama we still feel the need for love. We have witness in romantic movies how people, fight, and torture themselves because of love, because the void of love in our hearts cannot be ignored. Yes you may have honour success and wealth, but love is the only thing that completes a human being.

Mother Teresa once said, "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread."

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Still in love with my dog

I have witnessed that some of us are still in love with our dogs. By dogs I am not referring to the domestic animal we have in our homes to chase away thieves, I am referring to that lover or ex you have that acted and still acts like a dog, by sleeping around with whomever, some increase the population with strangers and still come back to you. These are the characteristics of a dog our partners possess, but still we cannot let them go. I have been trough that ordeal and I am over it. Most of my friends were curious on how I did it; this is what I told them.

Firstly you must make a decision. I know that you still love the dog, but you must ask yourself this following question; do I really want to be with that dog? Does the dog deserve my love? Will my life be better without the dog? Yes it hurts to let go because you love the dog, but you cannot move on to the second stage if you cannot answer this question.

Secondly you must accept that what you are doing is a bad habit. You have witnessed personally even on television how hard it is to break out of a bad habit, such as drug addiction, sex addiction and even anger. There is always some sort of practise or exercise which helps someone to overcome their addiction. This also applies to the unconditional love you have for the dog. This love is a bad habit, because it does you no good. You must create an exercise plan which helps you overcome the bad habit, you can engage in a project that will keep you busy and later brings you fulfilment.

Lastly you must confront the dog. You can never overcome something unless you confront it. I have been told that if you are scared of something, you must face that thing in order to overcome your fear. What you must do is to write down the list of all the bad things the dog has done to you, and state to the dog how those things made you feel. When you are done say goodbye to the dog. Well! If this doesn’t help you, you can always take into consideration this option; take the dog to the South African protection service for animals (SPCA). They will know what to do with the dog.

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